October is a month of anniversaries for me. Husband and I married 34 years ago this month, we no longer call it our anniversary, we now call it our “Day of Gratitude”. The anniversary of my son’s birth is this month, always a happy celebration. Not so pleasant, this October …
Forgiveness, sex and trust…three of the biggies to repair in a marriage after an affair. Learning to trust again after a partner has cheated is tough and just like forgiving and having intimate relations again, it takes time. I’ve written about sex, in “After the Affair: Sex & Weed” and forgiveness …
When I started writing this post it had been 3 years, 8 months and 10 days since the bomb-drop of October 18, 2014. I never thought I would recover, never thought my heart would heal. But to my surprise it had healed…at least that’s what I thought. There will always be …
how many times have you asked yourself…what if? WHAT IF I had gone to college right out of high school instead of waiting to finish until middle age? What if I would have taken the job with the Chamber of Commerce instead of The Truancy Project? What if I would have …
Once a week, Husband and I “CALIBRATE.” I put this in caps and bold because it has become such an integral part of our healing and reconnecting, I can’t imagine not using this important tool. What is Calibration? It is a time my husband and I set aside every Saturday morning …
Sex and weed after an affair…talk about delicate, talk about letting it ALL out there….but I’m going tackle it!! This is a difficult subject and way out of my comfort zone to talk about something so personal. But then, as I chuckle to myself, this blog IS very personal and …
After Husband and I and reconciled our marriage, the changes he experienced from participating in the Mankind Project (as well as counseling) were ingrained into his DNA. He had some minor bumps but recovered quickly and, more importantly, he learned from his mistakes. There were some “old Husband” trip-ups, but …
I will create a world of authenticity and integrity by speaking from my heart and being present in my relationships The above quote (shared with permission) is the Mission Statement my husband wrote while at the Mankind Project. He recites his Mission Statement to himself every day and more importantly, he …
What HAVE I learned about my marriage and myself? Now that the truth was all out there we could really move forward repairing our marriage. It took 16 months to get to this point. Was it worth it? I have to say it was. Even though much of our marriage …
As I sit here today I’m in a place I never thought I’d get to, a place of peace, happiness and contentment. It’s been a journey of self-discovery and growth beyond anything I’ve ever known. When I try to determine what it was, that one thing that helped the most, …
Over the Fourth of July weekend in 2015, I was feeling stronger and more hopeful of how things were going when I suggested we pull out our Marriage 2.0 where the number one item was FULL TRANSPARENCY, NO SECRETS. I felt for us to move forward it was important for me …
Spring 2015 was mostly nice. Husband and I were living together again. We bought new wedding rings and he got down on one knee to ask if I would wear it. We talked about renewing our wedding vows. We worked hard to change habits on our own and with the …
