Forgiveness, sex and trust…three of the biggies to repair in a marriage after an affair. Learning to trust again after a partner has cheated is tough and just like forgiving and having intimate relations again, it takes time. I’ve written about sex, in “After the Affair: Sex & Weed” and forgiveness …
Have I found Zen? Now more than ever my life is full of Zen, but there are moments where it hides from me. I will meditate every day for 2 weeks, a month and then skip a day. Or I’ll snap at my husband, take something personally when I know …
Free to be…What would that look like? Freedom to be my true self, who is actually two selves, sounds good to me. Sometimes I’m very social, someone who loves to be with people, basking in their energy. Then there’s my introverted side who desperately needs time to herself to recharge …
healing with music… Music has been a huge help in healing my heart. For the longest time I couldn’t go anywhere alone without having my earbuds in or the stereo blaring one of my favorite Spotify playlists. In the beginning of my journey they were all sad songs about broken …
When I started writing this post it had been 3 years, 8 months and 10 days since the bomb-drop of October 18, 2014. I never thought I would recover, never thought my heart would heal. But to my surprise it had healed…at least that’s what I thought. There will always be …
how many times have you asked yourself…what if? WHAT IF I had gone to college right out of high school instead of waiting to finish until middle age? What if I would have taken the job with the Chamber of Commerce instead of The Truancy Project? What if I would have …
In my search for Zen, the goal has been to create a life that is peaceful and calm. Not the dramatic ups and downs that were my life for such a long time. I’m not a calm person by nature but I craved inner peace. Mediation has been a powerful …
Once a week, Husband and I “CALIBRATE.” I put this in caps and bold because it has become such an integral part of our healing and reconnecting, I can’t imagine not using this important tool. What is Calibration? It is a time my husband and I set aside every Saturday morning …
Sex and weed after an affair…talk about delicate, talk about letting it ALL out there….but I’m going tackle it!! This is a difficult subject and way out of my comfort zone to talk about something so personal. But then, as I chuckle to myself, this blog IS very personal and …
After Husband and I and reconciled our marriage, the changes he experienced from participating in the Mankind Project (as well as counseling) were ingrained into his DNA. He had some minor bumps but recovered quickly and, more importantly, he learned from his mistakes. There were some “old Husband” trip-ups, but …
I will create a world of authenticity and integrity by speaking from my heart and being present in my relationships The above quote (shared with permission) is the Mission Statement my husband wrote while at the Mankind Project. He recites his Mission Statement to himself every day and more importantly, he …
What HAVE I learned about my marriage and myself? Now that the truth was all out there we could really move forward repairing our marriage. It took 16 months to get to this point. Was it worth it? I have to say it was. Even though much of our marriage …
